From the very olden times, man has this zeal of looking good. He wants to look smart, look attractive rather. He tries to do anything and everything to attract people towards him. And as it is said that “first impression is the last impression”, he does not want to spoil this first opportunity. Earlier a king was expected to be smart looking and physically fit, today everyone wants to be with a person who looks good, even companies try to hire people who look good so that they may get glamour into their organisation. It was always about the external beauty and it is about the same today also. How do we say that we are evolved over the period of time? We still desire the same what we desired thousands of years ago.
This urge of being attractive has undergone a continuous evolution from looking attractive, to looking smart and now to be different. Not everyone can look attractive because this is what they are born with. So now what we try is to be different. We have different hair styles, we have different dressing senses, and we use different gestures to express thoughts and feelings. And being different can also shed the barrier of being born with something because this is what we can acquire or learn with time. Does not it reflect the very fact that we just want to be different, we are actually obsessed with being different, different from the species of the same race that we belong to.
On the contrary, from the childhood we are taught about the inner beauty of a man, he should be honest, morally sound, ethical etc. Are not these the secondary traits? Why a child is not taught how to look good? How to talk in a way to impress others? How to attract others? Why he is always told to concentrate on the things that are secondary and which would not help others to form the first opinion about that person? Why he is not taught how to be different?
In my opinion we can conclude this behaviour as - art of deceiving. Isn’t it what a man always learned and wants to learn? He wants to portray what he is not. He wants people to think about him what he wants them to. He does what others like, what others expect him to, what others desire out of him. He avoids doing what he wants because that may go against the expectations of others and this would spoil his image. He always tries to probe into what others want him to do. A child does what his parents want him to do, a student does what his teachers want him to, an employee does what his employer wants him to do, a priest does what society expects him to.
We say we are losing our originality, I ask did we ever have it? When did we do what we wanted to? When was our actions result of our own desires? When did others not influence us? When was the time when man was on his own with his own desires in his own world? Why do we run away from the truth? Why do we pose to be what we are not?
