Speech is Silver, Silence is Gold!!!

What we take in, decides what we give out. The output is fully dependent on the input. So this means that the output is a direct derivative of the input.

Yet we give out a lot without taking in anything. What do you think would be the output like? Hollow, isn’t it? Confused?

Ok, so let me try and explain this. We see this around us in our day to day lives, people keep talking and discussing most of the time without even knowing the context or the meaning or thinking about what they are speaking. And this is a common phenomenon today. And to worse it all we are being trained to do so. We have grooming schools and MBA courses that teach us how to talk. Have you ever heard of a school or course that teaches us to LISTEN, OBSERVE? I know the answer would be a NO (Please let me know if your answer is otherwise, as I would be very willing to know about any such place).

We miss the most basic of the principles in our lives. Our eyes and ears are the tools that help us see, listen, observe everything around us. Yet we tend to use them the least and use our mouth the most. We brand few as introverts because they don’t give much output. We judge people by the amount of output they give and not by the quality of the same. And yet we say, best feeling are those that can’t be described in words. So are we missing the peak of experiencing best feelings? Why do you think that some men often tend to say something that becomes a proverb or a rule of life? I think it’s because they have seen, observed a lot around them and then they analyzed that and shared their thought. What happens when we have a lot of data points and we analyze that : an accurate output (simple principle of statistics). So, whatever these men say becomes an eternal truth of the world.

Since childhood we hear stories and tales that people left their homes and their societies and went to hills, jungles and came back as great, wise men. What divine thing blesses them? Is there some magical tree in the jungle? Or some gods live on the top of the chilling mountain? In my opinion, it’s the silence and solitude that teaches these men to observe things and hence they tend to become great and wise. We should spend more time to observe, analyze and introspect than to express. It gives depth and strength to your thoughts and you are able to express in more appropriate way.

It’s better to say a sentence and mean a world, than to say a world and mean nothing!!!

A New Experience

Jan 2nd 2014

New Year started with a new experience. A Cremation.

I was getting ready for office when the phone rang and a colleague informed me about the death of another colleague’s father. We were to visit the cremation ground before going to office now.

It made me sad to think about the loss of my friend, a loss that can never be recovered, a loss that is forever, a loss that is permanent. I halted the usual routine and started thinking about this till clock said that its time to leave for cremation.

It was for the first time in my life that I was to enter a cremation ground and it made me shiver. I don’t know what to say to my friend, I don’t know how to stand, I don’t know how to behave, I don’t know how long to be there, I don’t know the rules of the place.

With all these confusions and questions I entered the Kalkaji Cremation Ground. There was a group of people who were leaving that place, probably the relatives, friends of someone who has been cremated adjacent to my friend’s father. Silence, moist eyes, wrinkles on forehead were the common gestures on everyone’s face. Suddenly, I spotted my colleagues who were standing and witnessing the ceremony. I went and stood beside them. My friend had just lit the pyre of his father, a father who was, a father who gave him birth, a father who taught him to walk, a father who taught him to speak, a father who taught him a lot more than what words can describe.

My eyes could hardly contain the water and were searching for my friend who was at the receiving end of this event. There he was, clad in white kurta payjama and janeu across his chest, standing near to pyre and staring at the fire. He was not the same person who used to shake hands every day in office, this person was different. It seemed that he was talking to his father for one last time, probably telling him how much he loved him and how much he is going to miss him. The priest there asked everyone standing in front to step back and called my friend to do the last rituals. After the last rituals were done everyone gathered in the adjacent walkway where the priest informed everyone about the rituals that would take place in subsequent days.

The gathering was dispersed post that and we had to exit by holding our hands in Namaste and facing all the family members of my friend who were standing at exit in a queue and at the end it was my friend. This was the most difficult part of the whole event. I don’t know if there is anything more difficult than looking into the eyes of a person who is in grief of losing his father, his brother, his son. Those red eyes are sad, they are helpless, they don’t wish to see anything in this world but the one who has left for his heavenly abode. I wanted to say a couple of words to my friend but my throat choked and eyes were almost blinded by tears. I just bowed down my head and walked past him.

We then went to a corner where we were supposed to wash faces and hands before leaving that place. Ironically, we all either have been or have to be at the place where my friend was today, but we never want to be.

May the soul of Mr. Sethi Rest In Peace.

Equality

Are all the fingers in your hand equal? Are all the people in the world similar? Are all the tress same? Are all the parents similar? Does water all around the world tastes same? Does the air in every corner smell same? I believe you will agree that the answer to all the questions above is ‘No”.

I would like to explain it under three principles:

Duality

If we have evils in this world then we have goodness too, if we have fire then we have water too, if we see intelligence then we witness ignorance too, we have rich then we have poor. Just like a coin has two faces there exists a duality of each characteristic in this world. In fact this duality forms the basis of the beauty of this world, duality is in each and every creation of nature whether sea, desert, forests, mountains etc.

Relativity

Every time we hear this word, relativity, a funny looking grey haired man comes to our mind, Albert Einstein. He was indeed a genius; his theory can be applied in every walk of life. Here in our context it is as follows: We can say a person is good because we have someone who is not so good, a person is dark because we have someone who is fair, water is cool because we have fire etc. The point I want to make here that someone is fast because there is someone for sure who is slow.

Polarity

Water flows from higher altitude to lower altitude, air moves from high pressure to low pressure, heat from high temperature to low temperature etc. In each and every case we have two poles, two extremes and there is a continuous flow between these two poles till both are at same state. So, this means for the flow to happen there has to be a difference or there has to be inequality. We have a life because there are two poles – birth and death, a continuous flow from birth to death is the life and the day a state of equality is reached the flow stops.

So, by above examples/principles it is evident that inequality exists inherently in this world; from an atom to a galaxy no two are equal. What we should try to understand is the existence of two extremes and the importance of flow between them.

“It’s not the state of equality but the pursuit of equality”

Time: that was, that is, that will be..

There was a time

When friends were our world

When eating was our favourite job

When watching dreams was a hobby

When happiness was a habit

When love was a fantasy

When tears were a feeling

When health was actually wealth

When killing time was so easy

There is a time

When friends are just memories

When eating food is irregular routine

When watching dreams is a luxury

When happiness is a privilege

When love is not practicality

When tears are just salty water drops

When your wealth shows on your health

When time kills us so easily

There will be a time.....

The Day I Was Born

The day I was born, I was given a name

The day I learnt to speak, I was told to speak in limits

The day I started walking, I was told not to go out of home

The day I started learning, I was sent to school

The day I made friends, I was told not to meet them

The day I learnt about my hobbies, I was told to do a job

The day I liked someone, I was told to be a loyal son

The day I got married, I was told it’s a celebration

The day I had kids, I was told to become responsible now

The day my kids grew up, I was told not to interfere in their lives

The day I retired, I was told to do something productive

The day I was old & sick, I was told to be careful

The day I died, I was told “I CAN DO ANYTHING I WANT TO IF I COME BACK”

AND I WAS BORN AGAIN...

Fear

What is a man’s greatest fear? Is it the fear of death or fear of God or fear of Ghost or fear of loss of something or someone invaluable or it is something else? Well whatever it is, it is there in everyone. Every human has a fear inside him or her. There is no soul which is spared from this feeling of fear.

One thing that is common to all the fears is: uncertainty. We are scared of God why? Because we have never seen him and same goes with the Ghosts. We are scared of future why? Because we have never seen it. We are scared of losing something or someone why? Because we do not know what is going to happen with that thing or person. We are scared of all the things that we have not seen or we do not know about. And we will always continue to be scared about them. We cannot avoid this feeling. We can defer it for sometime but we certainly cannot avoid it.

What will happen to mankind if all these fears are removed from within us? Think about a child who is not afraid of his parents and continues to do something that is not expected out of him or her. Think about a mother who is not afraid to disown her child for any reason. Think about a soldier who is not afraid of enemy capturing his territory. Think about a teacher who is not afraid of spoiling the future of his or her pupils. Just think about all the fears that lie in every nook and corner around you. They are plenty but are necessary too.

We are taught and told from childhood that we should be fearless, why? What if all the above fears are taken out of a person? Will he be fit to live in this society? If I look back at my life then I can clearly see that it was not fearlessness that kept me intact of my morals and values but it was fearfulness. Why cannot we openly and happily accept that these fears play a very vital role in our lives? We say that necessity is the mother of invention, why? Because we reach a point where we are afraid of something and we want to get over it. It was the fear of being a slave forever that motivated Mohandas Gandhi to fight for the independence of India. Same was the case with Adolf Hitler. Even pandavas were afraid that if they do not rebel then they would be left with nothing so the Mahabharata took place. And these examples are quoted for the fearlessness of protagonists.

It has always been the privilege of few people who have decided what is wrong and what is right for us and we have been following it blindly for centuries. We are told that the feeling of fear is bad, is negative and we without even questioning it, believe it. We all are gifted with the power of thoughts but seldom do we use it. We are so busy in being fearless that we have forgotten that fear is for good of ours. We should not run away from our fears rather should embrace them and know them because it is our fear that makes us MORTAL.

Dreams

“Four or Five people sitting on a round table, me being one of them. Probably discussing some issue and trying to come to a conclusion. After spending a substantial amount of time no conclusion can be arrived at. I stand up and start leaving the room but one of them said something that made me stop and I turned back to go back to the table again. The man sitting at my left on the table took his hands below the table and came up with a revolver and put it on the table showing his honesty to surrender the arm. I somehow missed the sight of this man for just a moment and a thunder was heard. I was shot; a head shot and was dead. I did not feel anything and just died right away.”

I was shock awake and took few seconds to realize that I am still alive and not dead. It was just a dream or say night mare I saw. For the rest of the day I had heaviness in my head. I don't know why but I had a strange feeling. It was just a virtual world where I was shot and it should not have impact my real world because these two are no way connected to each other (at least no tangible connection exists between them). The whole day I was thinking why I felt strange, why I had heavy head. I do not have a clear answer to these questions of mine.

May be there is a connection between these two worlds, in our real world we act and behave according to what goes in our mind but in the virtual world we act and behave according to what goes much deeper inside us that is in our heart or say sub conscious mind. They say it from ancient times – “Those who dream big achieve big”. It shows that there is some relation between these two worlds of ours. But there is another dimension to it. There are two kinds of dreams, one which we see with our conscious mind like I see myself to be in place of Sachin Tendulkar and hitting sixes or I see myself to be the president of the country, the other kind of dreams are which we see unconsciously like the one I narrated in the start of the article. There is a difference in both of them, though both are dreams and so no logic can be applied to them but one reflects the fantasies of our conscious mind and the other of our subconscious mind.

In our virtual world we see the things that are buried deep inside us and we try to run away from them in our real world or are afraid of it. So it means that to be happy and lead a cheerful life we need to be happy from within and not just from the surface. Else our fears deep within will catch hold of us in some or the other way and will keep haunting us. We have to feel this within us that we are capable of doing a certain thing or we are strong enough to face any situation that blocks our way. From within I mean our thoughts and desires have to be perfectly streamlined, we in no way can get away with them.

I hope to write another version as it seems incomplete right now. I would just like to take a pause here by quoting what is said in Upanishads -

“You are what your deepest desire is;
As you desire, so is your intention;
As your intention, so is your will;
As is your will, so is your deed;
As is your deed, so is your destiny”

Random Thoughts

This entry is one which has resulted from a negative flow of thoughts; I think it is important to keep a balance of both the negative and the positive thoughts. It gives you an opportunity to look at the other side of the things. So here it is -

“When you are at your weakest phase of life you are alone. You have to live it by your own self. You have friends, parents before that and after that too but somehow something happens and at the moment where you need support you are alone. It’s not that they do not want to help you but everything turns out to be in a manner that you are all alone. No matter how much you try to make others understand your situation you would never be able to get across them and when the tough time is gone they understand you by just looking at you as if they have divine power of reading your mind.

I do not understand the irony of this life; we come alone and go alone then why don't we live alone, why can’t we face everything that comes in our way by our own. Everyone runs their own race then what for we need others, they are your competitors and not companions in the race. We come here we love people, we make friends but then what either we leave them or they leave us. If it has to happen one day or the other then why to make friends in the first place. Why do we waste our time and energy in all this? We should be ready to live alone from the very starting; I wonder how much resource we can preserve if we learn to live like this.

Well if I see the other side then it is practically not possible for humans to live alone and if you have people with you then you feel safe and have support. But where does it all go when you need it the most? In life you will face hardships when you do not have enough muscle to face it. Your car breaks down either on a deserted road or in the middle of a national park (happened with my friends), you have to pay the pending bills when you are almost broke, you have to attend a wedding when you have a very urgent meeting scheduled. And on the top of all this when all this is happening to you, you are all alone and nobody is there to buy your point of view.”

It’s not complete yet but I don't want to go further, maybe next time I would come back with the answers to my questions. And it does not have a heading because I did not find anything that can sum it all up in a phrase.

Being Human : Being Deceptive

From the very olden times, man has this zeal of looking good. He wants to look smart, look attractive rather. He tries to do anything and everything to attract people towards him. And as it is said that “first impression is the last impression”, he does not want to spoil this first opportunity. Earlier a king was expected to be smart looking and physically fit, today everyone wants to be with a person who looks good, even companies try to hire people who look good so that they may get glamour into their organisation. It was always about the external beauty and it is about the same today also. How do we say that we are evolved over the period of time? We still desire the same what we desired thousands of years ago.

This urge of being attractive has undergone a continuous evolution from looking attractive, to looking smart and now to be different. Not everyone can look attractive because this is what they are born with. So now what we try is to be different. We have different hair styles, we have different dressing senses, and we use different gestures to express thoughts and feelings. And being different can also shed the barrier of being born with something because this is what we can acquire or learn with time. Does not it reflect the very fact that we just want to be different, we are actually obsessed with being different, different from the species of the same race that we belong to.

On the contrary, from the childhood we are taught about the inner beauty of a man, he should be honest, morally sound, ethical etc. Are not these the secondary traits? Why a child is not taught how to look good? How to talk in a way to impress others? How to attract others? Why he is always told to concentrate on the things that are secondary and which would not help others to form the first opinion about that person? Why he is not taught how to be different?

In my opinion we can conclude this behaviour as - art of deceiving. Isn’t it what a man always learned and wants to learn? He wants to portray what he is not. He wants people to think about him what he wants them to. He does what others like, what others expect him to, what others desire out of him. He avoids doing what he wants because that may go against the expectations of others and this would spoil his image. He always tries to probe into what others want him to do. A child does what his parents want him to do, a student does what his teachers want him to, an employee does what his employer wants him to do, a priest does what society expects him to.

We say we are losing our originality, I ask did we ever have it? When did we do what we wanted to? When was our actions result of our own desires? When did others not influence us? When was the time when man was on his own with his own desires in his own world? Why do we run away from the truth? Why do we pose to be what we are not?

CHILDREN OF LESSER GOD

“A millionaire dead is worth more than a poor still alive.” We all are equal, God gave everyone exactly equal i.e. two eyes, two ears, two hands, two legs etc. But he differentiated by giving everyone different mother. Do you find it justified that a child born to a beggar is same as the child born to Ambani? On what basis do we say that we all are equal? Not every one of us gets the opportunity to study in a reputed convent (some do not even know how to write their name), not every one of us gets an airline as a gift on 18^th birthday (some unfortunates do not even know when they were born), not everyone of us have a choice which dress to wear today (some do not even have enough fabric to cover their body), not everyone has a menu to order for their meals (some feel blessed and thank god to give them a meal in one day). Why do we act like hypocrites and go on telling this absolute lie to everyone that yes we all are equal, why? We give examples of Abrahim Lincoln, A P J Abdul Kalam, Michael Faraday etc. to justify that even those who have will to do something can achieve what they want. Do you really think so? Ask a rickshaw puller, a beggar, a labour ask them how hard they work with no fail just to provide their families the food, the cloth and the shelter. Let us talk about something that is very own of each soul, Dreams, not even dreams of a poor person and a millionaire are same or equal. One dreams to have a square meal and earn enough so that his children go to a school but the other thinks how to increase the gap between him and the former. Dreams are weirdest imagination of ours but they are also not equal, there lives a whole world between the dreams of a beggar and a millionaire.

Let us forget what God gave us, let us see what we gave to this world and to each other. I think we as a human race must be having the widest metrics to differentiate between people, we have race, colour, caste, sect, country etc. We made these differentiators and practised them for centuries and then suddenly when we do not have anything better to do, let us talk about equality. Our constitution says every citizen of India have Right to Equality. Dr. Ambedkar it was your wisdom that that you saw it was needed but don’t you think it is easier said than done. Every day in newspaper we read news that a man killed family and then himself. Why do you think anyone will do that? A man does that when he sees all the ways but one in his life are ceased and he opts for that one way. If Amitabh Bacchan coughs it becomes a headline but a poor man dies without anyone noticing as if he had no identity in this world, it does not really matter when he is alive or dead. What kind of life are we all living? How can we live such a fake life in which every day we wake up and tell ourselves that we all are equal and thank God for that. Why can’t we just accept the naked truth that everyone in this world is different and can never be equal. The day all of us comes at same level and become equal that will be the end of human race. Human beings are not programmed to be equal. And this is one of the reasons behind my belief that either God does not exist or if he does then he is not a fair player, he make moves to fit his interest that people continue to have faith in him. A rich man fears from God and worship him because he does not want to lose his wealth, a poor man fears God and worship him because of some other obvious reasons.

Why do we want to make everyone equal by trying to make poor more prosperous, I think it will be easier to bring equality if we try to make rich less prosperous.

ADDICTION

Everyone is an Addict. Someone is an addict of drugs, someone of food, some other of sleep etc. To be a successful person you have to be an addict, a severe addict. Hitler was an addict, Gandhi was an addict, Bill Gates is and so is Steve Jobs. To achieve something great a person should have an addiction. Motivational leaders tell that a person should have Passion, Determination, Motivation, Commitment etc to be a successful person. I ask does not “Addiction” comprises all this?

What is Addiction? It is like an involuntary action that is not in our conscious control. We do not use this word to describe the personality of a person because it is not used by this hypocrite society in a positive manner. We use this word for all the negative purposes. But we forget the very fact that every man in this society who has made a difference was an addict. Edison was addicted to experiments, Einstein was addicted to absoluteness of time, and Gandhi was an addict of Non Violence etc. Addiction is the appropriate trait a person should posses. Why don't we ask our children to be addicted? Why are students not taught to be addict? Why do we need to live a balanced life with everything under our control? God created humans as the best beings but we humans have evolved as a highly normal race, we have become addicted to ‘mediocrity’. Why do we have rehabilitation centres for addicts? Don't you think we should have rehab centres for those who are not addicts? Can you think of any one person who was not an addict and contributed to this society? I know you cannot think of even one. So why are we afraid of being addicted to anything? Humans want to live a normal life, a life that is already planned, predicted and scheduled. Shakespeare said “This world is a stage and we all are players”, true, but did he say that the theme of the play is also decided? No, he did not.

We, who say are the mightiest race on this planet rather in this universe, are the most scared souls. We are scared ourselves that is the reason we do not dare to try anything new. A just born child is the purest form of human race; he is here in this world to be an addict but as he grows this society makes this child a mediocre by constantly telling him that addiction is not good. Why do we want to keep things under our control? And the very fact is man has always failed to keep things under his control but he is such an idiot that he does not stop trying and wasting his time and energy. Should not we rather use our energy is sync with the things around us. “Kites rise high against winds, true, but only because the string is pulled in the direction of the wind.”

Addiction is a continuous crave for a thing, it needs a lot of discipline and dedication. When addicted a person has a direction to work in. He is propelled by his inner voice and knows what to do. We should not bind ourselves in the boundaries defined by the society. Why should we live a mediocre life? We are meant to do great things. So in order to achieve anything in life be ADDICTED.

“GO, GET ADDICTED!!”

"Even the Womb can be shared but not the Grave"

When I was born many people were there around me, I grew up to go to school and I had my parents, classmates, teachers with me, I grew up more and I was liked by some of my classmates and some did not like me, When into final stages of Schooling I developed close friendship with few and had friends apart from schoolmates, relatives seldom came home. When I went out of my home to study further I was on my own, it was starting of my life, my own life, I interacted with people and made new relationships, now I stand here in this world at an age of 23 with many people around me but very few with me. These few people are those who are very close to me.
Every person on this Earth has to face all this; some are so unfortunate that they live their life alone from their very birth. But this is for sure that everyone has to live his/her life alone after some point in time in their lives. Someone may be lucky to born as twins or triplets but as we grow we all get alone and when it’s time to go we lay quite in peace and alone we go deep down the Earth so in the hearts of people. We do not understand this very fact that we all go alone, leave about the things we own but also the people we love are left behind.
We should live our lives in a way that has some meaning and contribute to the evolution of mankind. After we go people just remember what we did. Mahatma Gandhi, Abrahim Lincoln, Vivekanada, Mother Teresa they all did things that changed the way world thought. These people are still remembered and will always be because they came alone and went alone but the time they were in this world they fought alone not for themselves but for others. We should do something that benefits the mass. People won’t always remember Ambanis and Fords, because what they did and are doing is for their own good. What makes you different from the crowd is the crowd itself.
Energy Conservation Law is always applicable in all the spheres of Life and Universe. The more you radiate, the more gets reflected towards you and opposite is also true. Do good to others and others will do good to you. But people here are strange; they want to be immortal but not leaving all the mortals that they possess. True that immortality means living forever but not physically but in the hearts and minds of mankind.

[April 9,2009]

Life vs Man

Life is strange,

It shows so many facets to us.

Why does a man live?

When a Man is born he just wants to LIVE

As he grows,

Clouds of confusion start surrounding him.

He forgets the adage,

“You came empty handed and will go same way”.

Man is a mean animal now

Humans do not have Humanity any more.

Living beings evolve to make their lives easy,

But humans take opposite path

And evolve to make things complex.

Always trying to know the secrets of nature

And devising ways to predict future,

Man is always there to torcher,

Any and every living creature.

Take time to live,

Life has so much to give.

What matters is “Life in Human”,

And not “Human in a Life”

Principles of Life

Work towards the betterment of Mankind

Love and Mentor young

Respect and Learn from elders

Do not disturb the balance in Nature

The best Teacher : Experience

The best Examiner : Time

The best Friend : Wisdom

The best Tool : Knowledge

The greatest Enemy : Ego

The greatest Destructor : Anger

The best Religion : Work

[April 21, 2009]

"Where the Mind is Without Fear..."

Where the mind is without fear and the head is held high;
Where knowledge is free;
Where the world has not been broken up into fragments 
by narrow domestic walls;
Where the words come out from the depth of truth;
Where tireless striving stretches its arms towards perfection;
Where the clear stream of reason has not lost its way into 
the dreary desert sand of dead habit;
Where the mind is led forward by thee into 
ever-widening thought and action--
Into that heaven of freedom, my Father, let my country awake.

---- Rabindranath Tagore [Gitanjali,1910]

FUTURE

A Planner at your Table, your Mobile Phone alarming a Reminder, your Future plans in your Executive Diary, your “Things To Do” list. What are all these? Are we really living our life or we are just doing things which are already planned. Life is all about experiences and facing the surprises that are packed for us but we are spoiling this essence of life by planning what we have to do in future.
If we know or we just do the things that are scheduled for us in our planner then I guess we are not really living our life. Have you ever lived a day without knowing what you have to do the next moment? I guess most of you have not. We all have become addicted to our schedules and we do what is to be done as per our plans.
Now let me be more practical, what if you know you have to go for a date tomorrow and it is in your planner, due to some reasons it gets cancelled. How do you feel? Obviously you do not feel good but don’t you find yourself in a very uncomfortable situation of what to do in that time which you planned for a date.
Planning our tomorrow is more like knowing our future and when we know our future, our present becomes past and we can’t live in the past. Take a walk on the beach where breeze blows against you calming your soul. It should not be planned. Be there as long as you want not as long as you plan. Feel the nature, feel the life that is inside you, and feel your own self.
Look in the eyes of a child, they shine like a Pearl, a child is the happiest soul on this Earth because he does what he wants to and does not have any plans for them. A child always has a charm, a glow on his face, he is so carefree. Then this charm vanishes away as child grows up. This world begins to threaten him with the things that may happen tomorrow.
Our Life is like a Pandora Box and we do not know what is there for us in it. Why do we try to peep into it before its time for it open? “Do not cry over past, Do not worry about Future, Live in the Present.” Life is not just about getting up on time, going on our jobs, getting our meals on time and doing things as per plans. Do not try to tame the Life; it is not a worthy pet.
Life is all about living and living passionately without trying to know what is there for us at next step. As it is said that: “Take Time To Live, Life Has So Much To Give.”

CHILD

EACH OF US WAS A CHILD IN OUR LIFE. CHILDREN ARE THE BEST AND HAPPIEST FORMS OF THE HUMAN LIFE. EVERYONE LOVES THEM, EVERYONE CARES FOR THEM, THEY ARE ALWAYS HAPPY, THEY DONT HAVE TO FOLLOW THE SOCIETAL NORMS, HAVE NO FEAR, DO WHAT THEY WANT, ARE PURE, DONT LIE.
A HUMAN IS NOT A CHILD BY HIS AGE RATHER BY HIS HEART AND SOUL. EVERYONE HAS A CHILD INSIDE HIM/HER. SOME ARE ABLE TO KEEP THIS CHILD ALIVE THROUGH OUT THEIR LIFE BUT SOME SEE THIS CHILD DYING DURING THEIR LIFE. THERE IS NO DEFINED TIME AS WHEN THIS CHILD DIES, IT MIGHT BE VERY EARLY, VERY LATE OR NEVER. LIVING WITH THIS CHILD THROUGHT THE LIFE MAKES LIFE VERY SIMPLE AND HAPPY. THERE IS ALWAYS AN EXCITEMENT WHILE LIVING WITH THIS CHILD. BUT WHEN WE SEE THIS CHILD DYING IT HURTS, IT HURTS A LOT. WE FEEL THE SAME AS WHEN WE SEE ANY OTHER CHILD DYING IN FRONT OF OUR EYES, IT PAINS. I CANT SAY ABOUT EVERYONE BUT MOST OF US DO EXPERIENCE THE FEELING AND ARE ABLE TO IDENTIFY IT. IT’S THIS TIME WHEN YOU ARE IN THE NO MAN'S LAND. NEITHER YOU ARE A CHILD NOR GROWN UP. WE AT THAT TIME RESONATE BETWEEN THE TWO PERSONALITIES. DYING OF THIS CHILD IS NOT SOMETHING THAT FINISHES WITH A FLASH IT TAKES VERY LONG. YOU ACTUALLY LIVE FOR A SUBSTANTIAL PERIOD IN THE NO MAN'S LAND. SOMETIMES, WHEN IN THIS LAND YOU BECOME HAPPY AND CHILD IN YOU WAKES UP BUT OTHER TIMES THAT BLEEDING CHILD IS SLEEPING AND YOU ARE A GROWN UP.
I DONT SAY THAT GROWING UP IS A NEGATIVE PHENOMENON BUT THE DEATH OF CHILD IN US IS VERY NEGATIVE THING BECAUSE OUR CHILD IS WHAT MAKES US DIFFERENT FROM OTHERS, IT IS OUR IDENTITY. WHEN WE START GETTING MECHANICAL AND ACT AS PER THE NORMS AND REQUIREMNETS OF THIS SO CALLED CIVILISED SOCIETY WE LOOSE OUR ORIGINALITY. WHY IS IT ALWAYS SAID THAT EVERY CHILD IS SPECIAL WHY NOT EVERY GROWN UP IS SPECIAL. WE SAY THAT ALL CHILDREN ARE SAME, BUT IF WE SEE THEN ALL CHILDREN ARE IN SAME STATE RATHER THAN BEING SAME. EACH CHILD IS UNIQUE. ON CONTRARY THE MATURE AND GROWN UPS ARE ALL SAME BECAUSE THEY BEHAVE IN THE SAME EXPECTED WAYS, THEY LIVE BY THE RULES, THEY WORRY MORE ABOUT WHAT OTHERS THINK ABOUT THEM.A GROWN UP IS JEALOUS SEEING OTHERS HAPPY BUT A CHILD IS HAPPY IF HE/SHE SEES SOMEONE ELSE HAPPY. THE GROWN UPS ARE HAPPY IF SOMEONE IS IN PAIN BUT CHILD IS QUITE SAD IF HE/SHE SEES A SAD FACE. THE GROWN UPS ALWAYS PLAN THEIR FUTURE AND IN THIS THEY FORGET THEIR PRESENT AND LATER REGRET ABOUT THE PAST BUT CHILDREN DONT THINK ABOUT FUTURE AND JUST LIVE THEIR PRESENT THAT EVENTUALLY MAKE THEIR FUTURE FULL OF HAPPINESS.
WHY DONT WE REALISE THE IMPORTANCE OF THIS CHILD IN US. WE ARE CONTINUOUSLY EVOLVING TOWARDS THE HUMANS WHO ARE KILLNG THIS CHILD IN THEM AS SOON AS POSSIBLE. WE TELL KIDS TO DO WELL AT STUDIES SO AS TO BECOME DOCTORS, ENGINEERS, LAWYERS, MANAGERS ETC. WE ARE SNATCHING THEIR RIGHT OF BEING A CHILD FROM THEM. WHY DONT WE UNDERSTAND THAT IT’S THIS CHILD IN US WHO WILL KEEP US HAPPY AND OURSELF. SO ALWAYS TRY TO KEEP THE CHILD THAT YOU WERE BORN WITH. YOU CAME WITH THAT CHILD IN THIS WORLD AND WHEN YOU GO BACK FROM THIS WORLD GO WITH THAT CHILD THEN ONLY YOU WILL FEEL COMPLETE.
AND AT LAST JUST TO KEEP YOU THINKING, WHICH ONE OF THE TWO WOULD YOU SAY IS A BETTER WAY TO LIVE – BEING A CHILD WITH A MAN INSIDE OR BEING A MAN WITH A CHILD INSIDE?

Why we miss them

Just less than 3months and i am missing those moments , those friends, those days n nights with friends as if some one is suffocating in the absence of pure air. The more I think about those days the more weak i become. Thoughts of not getting that same time in future makes me shiver, makes me afraid and moists my eyes. Sitting alone in my room in one of the top notch B-School in country, I am alone, just looking the old memories on my laptop saved in the form of photographs. Some of them have flown to distant lands which are still aur dreamlands, some have got busy with jobs, others doing further education in diverse fields. But no one is happy, everyone wants to get back to the same place with same people. Everyone tries to keep oneself busy so that past doesnt flash back in front of their eyes leaving just tears in the eyes and memories on the mind.
Why do we always have to part our ways from those whom we really love!!!!! What hurts the most is being so close.
For all those who made my graduation a fun, a lesson, a fairy tale and above all those who are the gems of my life, i pray , i pray from the depth of my Heart with purest of feelings, May God Bless you all and what i want is just that once again WE ALL ARE TOGETHER.
i cant write no more else i am gonna burst out............................................ MISS U GUYS